ADHD, Pathological Demand Avoidance and Autism: Exploring the Complex Connection

ADHD-Autism-and-Pathological-Demand Avoidance PDA Exploring Complex Connection
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Raising children may be chaotic sometimes, but it's a beautiful journey. Having children and teens with mental health and behavioral issues is no easy task. Even then, know that you're not alone in this wild ride. 

It is even more challenging when you are uncertain what is behind your child’s behavior. You may be puzzled by the low motivation, difficulties focusing or rigidity and wondering if it could be ADHD, Pathological Demand Avoidance and/or Autism. Well, you aren’t alone.

Each can affect mood, stress, and behavior in different ways but also have many similarities too. Let's explore the link between Attention-Deficit Hyperactive Disorder, autism, and Pathological Demand Avoidance, as these conditions intertwine in complex ways. 

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What is Pathological Demand Avoidance?

In the vast realm of Autism Spectrum Disorder, a fascinating and distinct profile emerges called Pathological Demand Avoidance or PDA. PDA is a proposed subtype of autism that warrants our attention. Children and teens with the PDA profile of autism have central difficulty processing and responding to demands placed upon them. 

Unlike individuals with other forms of autism, they display an extreme extent of demand avoidance behaviors. Even the ordinary demands of life can trigger anxiety-based needs for control, leading to a relentless urge to avoid tasks or directives. This avoidance is not driven by defiance but rather by an overwhelming need to protect themselves from the distress associated with immediate demands.

Recognizing PDA traits can be crucial for understanding and supporting those who experience this condition. PDA kids may exhibit an intolerance of uncertainty, excessive mood swings, and a strong need for autonomy (O'Nions & Eaton, 2020). Their anxiety levels can escalate quickly, and they may experience panic attacks when faced with overwhelming demands.

One of the key features of PDA is the avoidance of tasks and the resistance to authority figures. Children and teens with PDA struggle with traditional strategies that are effective for those with other forms of autism. Their condition calls for a shift in approach and the development of social processes that respect their need for autonomy and freedom of choice.

It is essential to recognize that PDA behaviors are not rooted in defiance but rather in a rational demand avoidance driven by anxiety and a need for control.

PDA Internalizers vs Externalizers

 

In the process of learning to deal with PDA kids, it is essential to understand that kids express their struggles in different ways. Some kids are internalizers, while others are externalizers. 

Some children internalize their anxiety, appearing withdrawn, quiet, or compliant on the surface, even though they're experiencing intense pressure inside. These internalizers might be mistaken for being “easygoing,” but they’re actually battling an overwhelming need to avoid demands in a way that’s less visible, even to mom and dad.Internalized PDA

On the other hand, externalizers tend to act out more visibly when faced with demands, showing their distress through behaviors like meltdowns, aggression, or defiance. 

Compared to externalized PDA, internalized PDA can be harder to recognize because signs don’t look like the conventional signs of distress that you may expect, especially in a child. They may seem compliant, until anxiety builds up and results to physical aching and withdrawal from any social activity. 

Again, even though kids manifest their avoidance differently, it’s important to remember that both types of responses are rooted in the same deep-seated anxiety about losing control over things. 

These kids have a distinct profile within the autism spectrum, and acknowledging this can pave the way for better support and management. 

Furthermore, by recognizing whether your child is more of an internalizer or externalizer, you can begin to tailor your support to meet their unique needs, offering them the understanding and patience they so desperately need.

Symptoms and Characteristics of Autism and Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA)

 

Symptoms and Characteristics of Autism and Pathological Demand Avoidance

Understanding the symptoms and characteristics of autism and PDA is crucial for parents, caregivers, and healthcare professionals supporting children and teens on the autism spectrum. While autism and PDA share some similarities, they also exhibit distinct features that set them apart. Then again, in children with PDA and autism, diagnosis can simply start by looking at his/hers daily behavior and interactions. 

Autism, as a part of the autism spectrum, is characterized by social communication and interaction impairments. Autistic children may struggle to understand and use nonverbal communication cues, maintain eye contact, and engage in reciprocal conversations.  Likewise, kids with autism may have issues deciding things, so a little more patience can help them overcome these challenges. 

They may also experience challenges in navigating social situations and forming meaningful relationships. Sensory issues are another common feature of autism, where individuals may experience sensory overload or be hypersensitive to certain stimuli such as noises, lights, or textures.

On the other hand, PDA is proposed as a subtype of autism spectrum disorder. PDA kids exhibit extreme demand avoidance behaviors not rooted in defiance or oppositional defiant disorder

Unlike autistic people, who may struggle with social situations, PDA kids have a distinct profile characterized by a strong need for control and anxiety-based avoidance of everyday demands (Woods, 2022). They may actively resist or avoid tasks, leading to a significant impact on their daily functioning.

While autism and PDA share impairments in social communication and interaction, the central difficulty for PDA children is their avoidance of demands rather than a lack of social skills. These kids may exhibit excessive mood swings and have difficulty coping with life's ordinary demands, including brushing their teeth, taking a bath, and even eating.  The diagnostic criteria for PDA are still being refined, and researchers continue to study the distinct features of this profile.

How Does ADHD and Attention Problems Fit into Pathological Demand Avoidance and Autism?

 

Let's throw another acronym into the mix: Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, or ADHD. ADHD is a neurodevelopmental condition that can coexist with both PDA and autism. While ADHD is a distinct disorder, it shares some overlapping features with PDA and autism, leading to potential diagnostic complexities and challenges in understanding individuals with multiple conditions.

In the context of Pathological Demand Avoidance and autism, ADHD can further complicate a child's symptoms and behaviors. Children with PDA may exhibit characteristics of ADHD, such as difficulties with attention, impulsivity, and hyperactivity, which can exacerbate their extreme demand avoidance behaviors (Egan et al., 2020). It becomes challenging for them to engage in tasks or activities, which may lead to increased anxiety and stress.

Similarly, individuals with autism may also have ADHD, resulting in additional difficulties with attention, impulse control, and hyperactivity. It can impact their social interactions, communication skills, and ability to focus on tasks or follow instructions.

Difficulty in understanding non verbal cues are also observed in kids with AuDHD, meaning they won’t always get your facial expressions and they will need you to verbally explain what you want them to understand.

The sensory issues common in autism and ADHD can further contribute to sensory overload and difficulties in sensory processing.

I remember a young girl, let's call her Kelly, who faced the challenges of having ADHD and PDA. Kelly's days were often filled with restlessness, difficulty focusing, and overwhelming anxiety caused by the demands of everyday life. It seemed like a constant struggle for her to navigate social interactions and complete tasks. 

Her case was difficult to diagnose, but she got the interventions needed to manage her condition. Natural solutions such as neurofeedback, PEMF, and magnesium supplementation have greatly helped her.

How to Assess If Your Autistic Child also has PDA?

 

PDA and autism in adults vs kids can show up differently, even though they share similar roots. For children, these symptoms often emerge as noticeable behaviors, like meltdowns or resistance to routine tasks. In adults, it might look more like difficulty managing everyday responsibilities. 

This simplified Pathological Demand Avoidance checklist can help you get a clearer sense of whether your autistic child might also have PDA. It’s a useful starting point, but remember that every child is unique, and symptoms can vary. For an accurate assessment, it's important to work with a trusted healthcare professional who can observe your child holistically and provide the right support. 

This way, you can feel confident in understanding how to discipline your child with PDA:

  1. Avoid demands consistently
  2. Finds it difficult to understand social cues
  3. Finds it difficult to express their emotions and thoughts
  4. Obsessively fixated on specific activities or interests
  5. Demand avoidance behavior already impacts daily life 
  6. Uncomfortable in role play and pretend activities

Strategies for Supporting Kids with ADHD, Pathological Demand Avoidance, and Autism Profiles

 

There’s no need to fear if you suspect your child or teen of having ADHD and autism or PDA. Some strategies for PDA, ADHD, and autism exist that can help manage and support them. While it's essential to consult with healthcare professionals for personalized advice, here are some helpful approaches to consider:

1. Develop a structured environment

 

Establishing a predictable routine and clear expectations can help children with ADHD, autism, and PDA feel more secure and in control. Providing visual schedules and using visual supports can assist in understanding and managing daily tasks.

2. Use social strategies

 

Teaching social skills and providing opportunities for practicing social interactions are crucial. They are also a long game that needs continual reinforcement. Role-playing scenarios and social stories can aid in understanding social cues and appropriate behavior in different situations.

3. Address sensory issues

 

Recognize and address sensory sensitivities or sensory overload experienced by individuals with autism and PDA. Create sensory-friendly environments, offer sensory breaks, and explore sensory integration techniques to help regulate sensory responses.

4. Support communication skills

 

Communication is the foundation of all relationships. It is important to keep communication flowing with our neurodivergent children. When communication is a physical challenge, it may be necessary to enhance communication abilities through various approaches, such as augmentative and alternative communication (AAC) systems, visual supports, and social communication interventions. Encourage using strategies like social scripts and narratives to facilitate effective communication.

5. Create a team of professionals

 

Seek guidance from healthcare professionals with expertise in autism and PDA, such as psychologists, occupational therapists, and speech-language pathologists. Their specialized knowledge can provide valuable insights and tailored strategies that can help your child thrive. 

6. Foster self-regulation skills

 

Teach self-regulation techniques, such as deep breathing exercises and mindfulness practices, to help manage anxiety and emotional regulation. These strategies can empower individuals to cope with overwhelming situations and reduce the impact of demand avoidance behaviors.

7. Promote executive functioning skills

 

Develop strategies to support planning, organization, time management, and problem-solving skills. Visual organizers and breaking tasks into manageable steps can aid individuals in completing tasks and building independence around executive functioning.

8. Encourage engagement in special interests

 

Recognize and incorporate special interests as motivators and tools for engagement. Special interests provide a sense of purpose, increase intrinsic motivation, and facilitate learning.

9. Foster a supportive network

 

Involve parents, caregivers, and educators in understanding and implementing strategies for managing autism and PDA. Encourage collaboration, sharing experiences, and support from communities and organizations like our Natural Parenting Solutions Facebook Group.

10. Consider individual needs

 

Recognize that each individual with autism and PDA has unique strengths, challenges, and preferences. Tailor interventions and strategies to meet their specific needs, focusing on promoting their well-being and enhancing their quality of life.

As we navigate the intricate world of autism, PDA, and ADHD, let us remember the importance of embracing neurodiversity and promoting inclusivity. Autistic individuals, including people with PDA, have unique strengths and perspectives that can enrich our society. By fostering a culture of acceptance, understanding, and support, we can enhance their quality of life and create a more inclusive world.

Our BrainBehaviorResetTM program is an integrative approach that combines neuroscience, psychology, and natural therapies to create personalized plans for the treatment of PDA, autism, ADHD and other neurodevelopment disorder. Through it, children and teens can access natural, comprehensive, evidence-based techniques tailored to their unique needs, including neurofeedback, PEMF, and nutritional guidance

The goal is to empower children and teens to optimize their brain health and unlock their full potential, providing hope and support for those seeking holistic and practical approaches to managing neurodivergent conditions.

Parent Action Steps 

 

✅ Understand the overlap and co-occurrence of ADHD, Autism, and PDA

✅ Recognize the common symptoms and characteristics of ADHD, Pathological Demand Avoidance and Autism

✅ Seek professional diagnosis and evaluation to determine the specific conditions present

✅ Implement tailored strategies for social communication and interaction challenges

✅ Address sensory issues and provide sensory support to alleviate overload

✅ Develop executive functioning skills through structured routines and organization techniques

✅ Consider neurofeedback, PEMF therapy, and magnesium supplements as natural solutions

✅ Support your child's mental health and well-being through therapy and counseling

Connect with other parents and neurodivergent communities for advice and understanding.

✅ Take advantage of technology tools and apps to assist in everyday life and learning.

✅ Advocate for your child's needs within educational settings and get accommodations.

✅ Take our Solutions Matcher to get personalized help for your child

✅ Take the “Is it ADHD or something else?” quiz to know if your child has ADHD 

Citations 

Egan, V., Bull, E., & Trundle, G. (2020). Individual differences, ADHD, adult pathological demand avoidance, and delinquency. Research in Developmental Disabilities, 105, 103733. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.ridd.2020.103733

O’Nions, E., & Eaton, J. (2020). Extreme/“pathological” demand avoidance: an overview. Paediatrics and Child Health, 30(12), 411–415. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.paed.2020.09.002

Woods, R. (2022, April 7). Demand Avoidance Phenomena (“ Pathological ”/ Extreme ” Demand Avoidance): As a Social Construct. Openresearch.lsbu.ac.uk. https://openresearch.lsbu.ac.uk/item/8zq59

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Disclaimer: This article is not intended to give health advice and it is recommended to consult with a physician before beginning any new wellness regime. *The effectiveness of diagnosis and treatment vary by patient and condition. Dr. Roseann Capanna-Hodge, LLC does not guarantee certain results.

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