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375: The Disrespect Epidemic: Why Kids Are Ruder Than Ever and What to Do

January 21, 2026
Explore why disrespectful behavior is rising, how emotional dysregulation fuels it, and what parents can do to calm the brain, restore connection, and rebuild respect.
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Kids today seem sharper, quicker to snap, and harder to parent—and it’s leaving many families exhausted. In this episode, we explore The Disrespect Epidemic: Why Kids Are Ruder Than Ever and What to Do with Dr. Roseann Capanna-Hodge, founder of Regulation First Parenting™, who reveals how emotional dysregulation—not bad parenting—drives today’s behaviors and how calming the brain restores respect.

If you feel like your child’s eye rolling, snapping, or sharp tone has gotten worse, you’re not imagining it—and you’re not failing. Many parents are quietly wondering why parenting feels harder than ever, even when they’re doing all the “right” things.

In this episode, we unpack why kids are ruder than ever and what to do, revealing why disrespectful behavior has skyrocketed and why it’s really a sign of nervous system overload—not bad manners. You’ll learn what’s driving today’s explosive reactions and how calming the brain first can restore connection, respect, and peace at home.

Why does my child seem so rude and disrespectful lately?

Many parents worry their child’s disrespectful behavior means bad manners or poor values. But it’s not disrespect—it’s dysregulation.

Children today are overstimulated, under-rested, and under constant pressure. When the nervous system is overwhelmed, skills like empathy, patience, and respectful tone go offline.

What looks like rude behavior is really a stress response. Kids don’t wake up wanting to talk back or roll their eyes—their brains are stuck in survival mode.

Takeaways:

  • Behavior is communication, not defiance
  • Overloaded brains lose access to self-control
  • Your child isn’t bad—their nervous system is struggling

Example: A 12-year-old snaps “Leave me alone!” when asked about homework. It’s not attitude—it’s emotional overload.

Are kids today really ruder than past generations?

Children today aren’t worse—they’re more dysregulated. Screens, constant noise, fast schedules, and emotional burnout leave little recovery time. Many young people hold it together at school, then explode at home where they feel safest.

This is why disrespectful kids often save their worst behavior for parents and family members.

Takeaways:

  • Kids crash at home after holding it together all day
  • Hyper-stimulation shortens frustration tolerance
  • Losing problem-solving skills makes everything feel like a threat

“Kids don’t want to be disrespectful. It becomes the only thing their brain can do when they’re overloaded.” — Dr. Roseann

Why doesn’t my child listen or respond respectfully in the moment?

When a child’s nervous system is in fight, flight, or freeze, the prefrontal cortex—the brain’s job manager—goes offline. You can’t reason, lecture, or punish your way through dysregulation.

Matching their intensity only fuels a power struggle.

What helps instead:

  • Soft tone + calm body lowers arousal
  • Name the feeling without approving the behavior
  • Pause before correcting tone or words

Example: Instead of “Don’t talk to me like that,” try, “You sound overwhelmed. Let’s pause.”

Yelling less and staying calm isn’t about being perfect—it’s about having the right tools.

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How can I teach respect without yelling or harsh consequences?

You can’t demand regulation—you have to practice it. Teaching respect starts when kids are calm, not mid-meltdown. Scripts, cues, and predictable routines build safety and better behavior over time.

Steps forward:

  • Teach respectful words after the storm
  • Build daily regulation breaks (movement, water, quiet time)
  • Prioritize sleep—an exhausted brain is more likely to be rude

It’s not bad parenting—it’s a dysregulated brain. Let’s calm the brain first.

If you need fast support during heated moments, tools like Quick CALM help reset the nervous system in minutes so kids can respond instead of react.

Takeaway

You’re not alone—and it’s gonna be OK. Disrespectful behavior doesn’t mean you’ve lost your child or your authority. When you focus on regulation first, connection and respectful behavior follow. There’s always a way forward.

FAQs

Why is my child so rude to me but not others?

Kids often unload where they feel safest. Home is where dysregulation spills out after holding it together all day.

Should there be consequences for disrespectful behavior?

Yes—but only after regulation. Calm brains learn; dysregulated brains resist.

Is eye rolling and name calling normal?

It’s common today, but it’s a sign of overload, not character flaws.

How do I stop power struggles with my child?

Step out of the moment, lower your tone, and co-regulate before correcting.

Can kids really learn respect if they’re dysregulated?

Absolutely. Regulation builds the foundation for respect.

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Dr. Roseann Capanna-Hodge: Revolutionizing Children’s Mental Health

Dr. Roseann Capanna-Hodge’s podcast, It’s Gonna be OK!™: Science-Backed Solutions for Children’s Behavior and Mental Health, is in the top 2% globally. The podcast empowers parents with natural, science-backed solutions to improve children’s self-regulation and calm their brains. Each episode delivers expert advice and practical strategies, making it indispensable for parents of neurodivergent children or those with behavioral or mental health challenges.

Dr. Roseann, founder of The Global Institute of Children’s Mental Health and Dr. Roseann, LLC, created the Neurotastic™ Brain Formulas and BrainBehaviorReset® method. With her extensive experience, she provides families with hope and effective strategies to manage conditions like ADHD, anxiety, OCD, and PANS/PANDAS.

Forbes has called her “A thought leader in children’s mental health,” highlighting her revolutionary impact on mental health education and treatment. Through her podcast and innovative methods, Dr. Roseann continues to transform how we approach, treat and understand children’s mental health.
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