When your child is struggling in school—melting down after homework, falling behind, or overwhelmed by expectations—it’s easy to feel lost. Understanding the difference between an IEP and a 504 can be the first step toward getting them the support they actually need.
In this episode, Dr. Roseann explains how each plan works, what they cover, and how to know which one helps your child thrive.
Why is it so hard to understand the difference between an IEP and a 504?
Most parents feel overwhelmed because both IEP and 504 plans sound similar, but the level of support is completely different. And when a school tells you your child “doesn’t qualify,” it can feel defeating.
Here’s the truth:
- IEPs provide specialized instruction + services
- 504s provide accommodations + equal access
- Both require clarity on your child’s needs—not just a label
- You get to be part of the decision-making team
Real-life scenario:
A mom spent thousands pursuing an IEP for her gifted child with dyslexia. Her child didn’t qualify, but she still deserved support. This confusion happens every day—this episode helps clear it up.
How do I know if my child really needs an IEP?
Ask yourself: Is my child falling behind academically, socially, or developmentally because of a disability?
Children who often benefit from IEPs include those with:
- Autism spectrum disorder
- ADHD that affects learning
- Significant emotional or behavioral dysregulation
- Physical or neurological conditions impacting school success
Takeaways:
- IEPs require measurable goals
- Services must match your child’s strengths and needs
- You’re part of a collaborative team
- Behavior is communication—IEPs can support emotional regulation too
What is a 504 plan and how does it support my child?
A 504 removes barriers so your child can participate equally in school. Unlike IEPs, 504s can continue through college and workplace environments.
Common 504 accommodations include:
- Extra time on tests
- Movement or sensory breaks
- Reduced workload
- Preferential seating
- Clear routines and visual supports
While 504s don’t include specialized teaching, they:
- Ensure equal access
- Require clear goals and documentation
- Can be incredibly impactful for kids with anxiety, ADHD, or emotional dysregulation
What should I ask for during the IEP or 504 meeting?
Parents often feel pressured to make their child “fit the program,” but legally, plans must reflect the child—not the system.
Ask your team:
- “What are my child’s strengths and weaknesses?”
- “Where is my child struggling compared to peers?”
- “What services match these needs?”
- “How will progress be measured?”
This episode reminds parents: You’re not there to be agreeable—you’re there to advocate.
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🗣️ “You are your child’s best advocate. There’s nobody else that’s better than you.”
— Dr. Roseann
Understanding IEP vs 504 isn’t just paperwork—it’s how you make sure your child gets what their brain and body need to learn. And remember, it’s not bad parenting—it’s a dysregulated brain. When you know your options, you can confidently create the right path forward.
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FAQ
Do kids with ADHD usually get an IEP or a 504?
It depends on whether ADHD impacts learning. If it affects academic progress, an IEP may be needed; otherwise, accommodations through a 504 work well.
Can a child have both an IEP and a 504?
No. They’ll receive one plan—the one that matches their level of need.
Does a 504 follow my child to college?
Yes—colleges often honor 504 accommodations, though they may require updated testing.
What if the school says my child doesn’t qualify?
You can request data, evaluations, and appeal decisions. Parents are part of the team.
Is there still stigma around special education?
Stigma is much lower today—many schools openly support accommodations.
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