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If your child comes home drained, frustrated, or on the edge of a meltdown, you are not alone. Parenting a neurodivergent student often means holding the emotional weight of school challenges that teachers never see.
In this episode, I break down the real reasons kids struggle and the simple steps you can take to advocate for support, calm their brain, and help them feel successful in and out of school. You’ll learn how sensory overload, executive functioning issues, and learning demands impact behavior, plus what to ask for in a 504 or IEP.
Why does my child cope at school but melt down at home?
Many parents tell me their child seems fine during the school day but falls apart the moment they walk through the door. That is a classic sign of sensory overload and learning fatigue.
Neurodivergent students spend all day masking, compensating, and holding it together. Home is where their nervous system finally feels safe enough to release the stress.
What helps:
- Sensory breaks: movement, stretching, dancing
- Quiet decompression time before homework
- Reduced after school demands to prevent overload
Example: A child who navigates noisy hallways and visually busy classrooms may appear “fine” at school but comes home irritable and explosive because their nervous system is overwhelmed.
How do sensory processing issues affect learning and behavior?
When the brain feels unsafe, learning shuts down. Sounds, lights, smells, and visual clutter can dysregulate a child in seconds.
Supportive tools:
- Headphones or ear blockers for noise
- Dim lighting or blue blocker glasses
- A sensory corner or calm-down space
- Visual bookmarks to reduce reading overwhelm
These small accommodations help the brain stop reacting and start focusing.
What executive functioning challenges should parents look for?
Executive functioning is the brain’s manager. When it is overloaded, kids struggle with planning, organization, and follow-through. is one reason many neurodivergent students need extra support even if they don’t have ADHD.
Look for:
- Trouble getting started
- Losing materials
- Meltdowns during multi-step tasks
- Poor time awareness
What helps:
- Timers and visual schedules
- Mind maps to break tasks down
- Future thinking exercises
- Step-by-step task lists
Example: A child may stare at a worksheet not because they are unwilling, but because they cannot figure out where to begin.
Does my child need a 504 plan or an IEP?
If your child regularly struggles with sensory issues, anxiety, executive functioning, or learning challenges, they may need formal accommodations. These supports protect their learning access and help educators understand their needs.
Start with:
- Documenting patterns
- Speaking with teachers
- Asking the school for an evaluation
- Learning the difference between a 504 vs. IEP
Remember: Behavior is communication. When we calm the brain first, kids can learn and thrive.
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🗣️ “Supporting neurodivergent kids starts with meeting them where they are. When we understand their wiring, everything gets easier.”
— Dr. Roseann
Summary
Neurodivergent students can succeed when we address sensory needs, support executive functioning, and advocate for accommodations that honor their brain. You are not alone, and with the right tools, it’s gonna be OK.
FAQ
How do I know if my child is neurodivergent?
Look for patterns in attention, sensory needs, social interactions, anxiety, or academic struggles. If you’re unsure, seek an evaluation.
Why is my child more anxious at school?
Loud noise, academic pressure, transitions, and sensory overload can trigger anxiety for neurodivergent students.
Are headphones allowed in school for sensory needs?
Many schools allow them as a sensory accommodation. Ear blockers are another subtle option.
Is dyslexia considered neurodivergent?
Yes. Dyslexia, ADHD, autism, and learning disabilities all fall under the neurodivergent umbrella.
Do sensory breaks really help?
Yes. Movement and sensory regulation lower stress and improve attention, behavior, and learning.
Next Step:
Every child’s journey is different. That is why cookie cutter solutions do not work.
Take the free Solution Matcher Quiz and get a customized path to support your child’s emotional and behavioral needs. Start today at www.drroseann.com/help
