Nowadays, children are glued to their devices more than ever before. Whether it's for socializing, entertainment, or learning, screens have become a central part of their daily lives. And the reality is that this has intensified in the wake of the pandemic, where remote learning and limited social interactions pushed many children towards digital alternatives for communication and entertainment.
That's why in this episode, we'll delve deeper into the reason behind why children often react with anger when asked to step away from their devices. Understanding these dynamics is crucial so as to better support our children's emotional and developmental needs.
Reducing tech-induced tantrums in children.
Technological devices are intentionally crafted to be irresistible. They effectively counteract boredom by delivering highly engaging and stimulating experiences, almost like a continuous system of rewards. This addictive quality is purposefully engineered, often with input from psychologists who collaborate on making games and apps increasingly captivating. When my kids are glued to their screens, it's often because they're seeking that stimulation. And if I don't set clear and consistent boundaries, it only adds fuel to the fire. I've learned the hard way that without limits, things can escalate quickly.
That's why I've started using tools like timers or even cutting off Wi-Fi to enforce breaks. It's saved me a lot of parenting stress over the years. However, what I want to emphasize is that it's not just about rules; it's also about offering alternatives and setting expectations. Sometimes, I realize my kids don't know what else to do once they're off their devices. I've found that introducing a variety of activities can help divert their attention from screens.
Whether it's outdoor play, creative projects, or family time, these alternatives not only provide a break from devices but also enrich their experiences and skills. By exploring different interests together, I'm fostering a more balanced approach to their use of technology while nurturing their overall development.
Managing device rage in children and setting clear limits.
For some kids, devices are like a digital comfort zone, especially if they struggle with issues like ADHD or anxiety. It becomes a coping mechanism, a way to regulate their emotions. Understanding this has helped me approach the situation with more empathy and patience. That’s why it’s important to find a balance. It's about setting clear boundaries, providing alternatives, and understanding the deeper reasons behind their attachment to screens. Personally, that's how I'm tackling the issue and trying to make our home life a bit smoother.
Understanding why children get upset when told to stop using their devices involves acknowledging how they relate to technology. ust as adults vary in their ability to manage stress and maintain focus, children, whether neurotypical or neurodivergent, also experience fluctuations in their emotional and sensory capacities. This variability can significantly influence how they engage with and respond to digital devices.
For many children, devices serve as more than just a source of entertainment; they provide a comforting escape from sensory overload or social pressures. This can be similar to the way adults turn to activities like binge-watching Netflix to unwind and disconnect from daily stressors. When children find solace in their devices, it's often because these tools offer a controlled environment where they can regulate their sensory experiences or manage social anxieties.
Moreover, with social norms changing after the pandemic, children often turn to digital platforms to stay connected and feel part of things. But spending so much time on devices brings challenges, especially in setting limits. Research shows teenagers spend around seven hours daily on screens, and younger kids can exceed ten hours, especially on weekends.
This highlights the importance of clear rules and parents keeping an eye out to promote healthy device use. Also, managing conflicts around device usage requires a balanced approach. When children react with anger or frustration upon being asked to disconnect, it's crucial to respond calmly and consistently. Enforcing consequences, such as reduced screen time the following day if rules are broken, reinforces the importance of respecting boundaries without escalating tensions.
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For additional resources, check out the following:
● Episode 102: The Connection Between Social Media and Mental Health
● Episode 103: Stopping Screen Time Battles
● The Effects of Screen Time in the Brain and Body
● Dysregulated Behavior in Kids
● Podcast
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