Often, it’s difficult to distinguish why our children behave the way they do. Because of the overlapping similarities in symptoms of certain mental health problems, it’s even more difficult for us to resolve these issues.
That’s why it’s important for us to seek help from mental health professionals to immediately provide solutions for our children’s mental health problems. We need to have an open mind and willingness in addressing these issues and in tracing the many possible root causes that may be contributing to our children’s symptoms.
What is going on when you’re angry or anxious?
Behavior is dysregulated when you’re angry or anxious. In such situations, our brain's natural fight, flight, or freeze response gets triggered and it can lead to impulsive or irrational behaviors.
That’s why it’s important for us to learn how to calm the brain because if we just let it be, it may lead to a crisis. Calming the brain can be accomplished through different methods, including mindfulness, deep breathing exercises, physical activity, or talking to your support system.
It’s also important for us to get to the root cause of the behavior for effective treatment and management. That’s why I do Quantitative Electroencephalogram (QEEG) brain mapping on people I work with. It is a diagnostic tool that gives us valuable answers to help us understand the brain activity of our children.
You have to be a parent detective.
Be a parent detective. You have the power to make a positive change as we give you the tools and help you along the way. Try to pull yourself out of those emotions and take a look at what is going on.
It's normal for parents to become emotionally invested in their kids, which can occasionally make it difficult for them to see things clearly. Parents can better understand what might be causing these behaviors and develop strategies to resolve issues by taking a step back and analyzing the situation.
It's also crucial for parents to get professional help if they are having trouble or if the behavior is significantly interfering with their daily lives. For addressing behavioral disorders in children, mental health professionals can offer direction, assistance, tools, and resources.
What do you do when your kids are out of control?
I've done over 10,000 brain maps and it’s safe to say that complexity is never the problem but rather, it's the attitude towards the problem. While a negative attitude can result in feelings of helplessness and hopelessness, which can affect progress, a positive attitude can increase motivation and problem-solving abilities.
However, we have to take note that problems frequently have several causes, and a positive outlook might not be sufficient to eliminate them, which is why we need to have a reliable, comprehensive and holistic approach.
First of all, you want to put your own oxygen mask on first. You have to be that parent detective who takes a step back and looks at a situation in its entirety. Be proactive and take note of what triggers the behavior, when it occurs, and how often it happens.
How can you get caregivers and partners on the same page?
When your kid is so dysregulated that you're not even sure what it is that you need, it can be incredibly helpful if you have a strong support system. Having a support system can give parents a feeling of understanding and approval as well as assistance and guidance.
The sense of community and connection with others going through similar situations can also leave a positive impact by joining a support group. Both parents should be on the same page when helping their child. If you don’t know how to help your partner, provide him with good information and other resources. It greatly helps to have a provider that's aligned with you and your partner and have conversations with them because communication is key.
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