We all know that parenting is hard and it becomes even more challenging when your child is dealing with a behavioral problem or a mental health condition. In some cases, marriages are affected because of children.
Parents may find themselves constantly worrying about their children and even constantly fighting which causes a strain in their marriage. This then affects the entire family dynamics. And so, in today’s episode, let us learn more about how your child’s behavior can affect your marriage.
How to get on the same page with your spouse?
Married couples don’t always agree on things and that’s understandable because sometimes, they each have their own different perspectives on some matters. However, it’s still important to get on the same page as it will allow for a better understanding of the child's needs and finding the best solutions.
And of course, each of them have their own parenting style. If you’re a parent, you're not going to parent in a way that is similar to your spouse’s and it may or may not cause a lot of conflict not just with your spouse but also your child.
As such, there is a need for us to learn more about the brain. Through our Brain Behavior Reset Program, we’re able to look at the brain and understand how clinical issues impact the brain resulting in our child’s unwanted behaviors.
Make sure that both parents are involved in the child’s healing journey. As much as possible, you have to work together as a team. Having each other's support can help them cope with the challenges and share the emotional burden.
How does this impact the brain?
What parents should know is that they’re just putting more fuel to the fire when they parent differently. As a result, their child will find it difficult understanding what he or she should be doing and this further affects his or her learning development.
Instead, parents should at least have shared or common parenting skills to avoid creating confusion and hindering a child's ability to understand what is expected of them. Parenting consistency benefits a child's sense of understanding and overall development.
Setting boundaries is important.
I’m sure there are parents who will agree with me when I say that other family members or relatives just tend to involve themselves so much in your parenting journey and your own family matters. They may occasionally provide suggestions out of genuine concern or a lack of understanding.
And so, even deciding what treatment your child should get becomes more of an issue because they are also insisting for you to take their inputs and suggestions. It then becomes an issue because their suggestions may not always align with your own perspectives or the recommendations of professionals involved in your child's care.
That is why it is important for parents to learn how to preserve their relationships with others while also setting boundaries despite how uncomfortable it may feel initially. However, boundary setting should be done only when you’re calm so as to properly express your intentions.
Finding your tribe.
It’s important to be surrounded by supportive people and it’s hard to find your own tribe. Joining support groups or looking for tools and resources might help parents connect with others who are going through similar situations. That’s why I created the Natural Solutions Parenting group, I invite you to join!
To conclude, viewing the issues differently is not going to help you. You need to get on the same page not just with your spouse or partner, but also with your family. Remember that it’s important to set boundaries as well.
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