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When your child keeps struggling despite therapy, medication, or behavior plans, it’s heartbreaking and confusing. You’re not doing anything wrong—your child’s nervous system is overwhelmed. In this episode, I’ll show you how calming a dysregulated nervous system can reduce oppositional behavior, improve focus, ease anxiety, and support better learning.

Why does my child still have meltdowns even with therapy and medication?

Most kids don’t improve because we’re treating symptoms—not the root cause. A child stuck in a sympathetic, overactive state can’t think clearly or use tools learned in therapy. The nervous system sets the stage for every behavior.

Key signs this is happening:

• Strategies only work in the short term
• Big emotions erupt over small triggers.
• Your child looks tired, wired, or both

Real-life scenario: You introduce a reward chart and it works for two days… then the explosions return. That’s not defiance—it’s dysregulation.

Is my child overstimulated or understimulated—and what does that mean?

Dysregulation shows up in two ways, and both affect learning, behavior, and mood.

Overstimulation may look like:

• Irritability or quick anger
• Meltdowns that snowball

Understimulation may look like:

• Low motivation
• “Lazy” or fatigued

These aren’t personality traits—they are nervous system states. And parents often mistakenly punish what is actually overload or shutdown.

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What can I do at home to help reset my child’s nervous system?

It doesn’t require hours of work. Even 10 minutes a day of intentional regulation can shift your child out of survival mode.

Try:

• Co-regulation: Slow breathing together, soft voice, closeness
• Movement: Rocking, stretching, or gentle vestibular input
• Predictable transitions: Especially after school or before bed

Example: Instead of reacting to an after-school meltdown, sit close, breathe slowly, and say, “Let’s calm our bodies together first.” Connection paves the way for cooperation.

Want to support this work holistically? You’ll love our episode exploring natural tools that calm behavior and anxiety.

How does co-regulation actually improve attention, anxiety, and behavior?

Co-regulation is the foundation of my CALMS Parenting Protocol. When your child leans into your calm, their nervous system learns how to return to a regulated state faster over time.

Why it works:

• Children borrow your regulation
• Safety → better thinking
• Regulation → focus, listening, flexibility

And remember: It’s not bad parenting—it’s a dysregulated brain. When you stay regulated, you model the skills your child desperately needs.

🗣️ “Once we regulate the nervous system, children can finally think, learn, and heal.”
— Dr. Roseann

Calm the Brain, Change the Behavior

You don’t need more complicated systems—you need consistent regulation. When you help your child feel safe and grounded, behavior, attention, and communication naturally improve. Small daily moments of co-regulation build the long-term emotional resilience every child needs.

For more tools, explore how to heal a dysregulated nervous system.

FAQs About Fixing a Dysregulated Nervous System

What’s the fastest way to calm a dysregulated child?

Start with co-regulation—slow breathing, closeness, and a soft voice. Your calm nervous system helps theirs settle.

Can a nervous system really change?

Yes. With daily regulation, sleep support, and reduced overstimulation, the brain becomes more flexible and resilient.

How long until I see improvement?

Many parents see shifts within weeks when they regulate their daily routine—shorter meltdowns, better focus, and easier communication.

When your child is struggling, time matters.
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