I’m Dr. Roseann Capanna-Hodge, and I help parents calm their child’s brain so behavior follows.
I see you, because I’ve been there too.
That feeling of walking on eggshells, never knowing what will trigger the next meltdown. The explosive anger over something that seems so small—or nothing at all. You’re constantly trying charts, rewards, consequences, even medications—and still you feel stuck, exhausted, worried you’re doing something wrong.
Here’s the truth: it’s not your fault, and it’s not your child’s fault either. What you’re seeing are signs of a nervous system out of balance—not simply bad behavior or a “difficult phase”.
I want you to hear this from me, not just as a child psychologist with 30 years of experience, but as a mom: Your child is not “bad.” They are dysregulated. Their nervous system is stuck in a state of fight-or-flight, and they physically can’t access the logical, calm part of their brain. That’s why punishments, sticker charts, and long talks don’t work.
When a child’s brain is stuck in “fight-flight” or “freeze” mode, the part of the nervous system that helps calm—the parasympathetic branch—isn’t doing its job. In simple terms: the brain’s alarm system is on. That means attention, learning, emotional flexibility and calm behavior all get tossed aside.
My method—Regulation First Parenting™—puts control of that nervous system at the centerre. Instead of responding only to behavior, we ask: How do we calm the brain first? Because when the brain feels safe, behavior naturally follows.
In Regulation First Parenting™, you learn to regulate before you try to connect or teach—because a dysregulated brain can’t process logic or lessons. When you focus on calming the nervous system first, your child’s ability to connect, focus, and follow through naturally improves. It’s the science of calm turned into practical parenting.
Here’s how we shift things:
Regulate first: Before correction, we co-regulate—you model calm; your child mirrors it.
Connect next: Relationship beats compliance. A calm brain is open to connection and guidance.
Correct when ready: Once regulation and connection are in place, behavior shifts with ease.
I know you’re overwhelmed. You don’t need a 300-page book or a complicated course right now. You need something that works, and you need it now.
If you’re ready to see real change fast, Quick Calm™ is my proven 7-day reset built for busy parents who need results. This is a simple, powerful digital guide that gives you the exact steps to take when your child is in the middle of a meltdown. No fluff, no jargon—just a proven, science-backed method that you can learn in minutes and use today.
With Quick Calm™, you will get:
✓ My signature CALMS™ Method for co-regulation
✓ Printable morning & evening routines that really work
✓ Cheat sheets, checklists, visual tools for your child’s brain and yours
✓ Science-backed, real-life tools you can start tonight (yes, tonight!)
✓ The one thing most parents do that accidentally makes meltdowns worse
✓ How to become your child’s anchor in moments of chaos
Start today for just $19 (originally $54.00), and let’s calm that brain so your child—and your family—can thrive.
"Your child's brain can heal. Your parenting heart already knows how to love them. Let's give the brain the rest of the plan."
I know how painful it feels when you love your child and yet their behavior makes you feel powerless. I’ve been there as a parent and a therapist. You don’t have to watch the chaos continue. With the right brain-based tools, you can help your child feel safe, regulated—and open to growth.
Emotional dysregulation can look different in every child, but common signs include intense emotional reactions that seem disproportionate to the situation, frequent and severe temper outbursts, difficulty calming down after being upset, rapid mood swings, and physical symptoms like headaches or stomachaches when stressed. You might feel like you’re “walking on eggshells” to avoid a meltdown.
While they can look similar, they are different. A typical tantrum is often goal-oriented (e.g., a child wants a toy). An emotional dysregulation meltdown is a nervous system reaction. The child isn’t in control and their brain is in a state of “fight, flight, or freeze.” They can’t be reasoned with during the meltdown because the logical part of their brain is offline. The Quick Calm™ method is designed to address these nervous system meltdowns.
Without the right tools and support, children often continue to struggle with emotional regulation into their teen and adult years. The key is not waiting for them to outgrow it, but actively teaching them the skills to regulate their nervous system. This is a core principle of my Regulation First Parenting™ approach.
Quick Calm™ works because it doesn’t just focus on the behavior; it focuses on the brain. It uses a 5-step, science-backed process based on co-regulation to help your child’s nervous system switch from a state of high alert to a state of calm and safety. It’s not a magic trick—it’s neuroscience made simple and practical for parents to use in the heat of the moment.
Quick Calm™ is a powerful parenting tool and is not a replacement for professional therapy or medical advice. It is designed to be a first line of defense for parents to use at home and can be used alongside other therapies. If you have serious concerns about your child’s mental health, you should always consult with a qualified professional. This guide is an excellent science-backed starting point for creating a calmer home environment.
The effectiveness of diagnosis and treatment vary by patient and condition. Dr. Roseann Capanna-Hodge, LLC does not guarantee certain results.