Following the stress of our pandemic quarantine, talking to children about the nationwide protests and racism after the death of George Floyd, feels so overwhelming. Riots, protests, and racism are hard topics to tackle but important for so many reasons. Children and teens will have questions and many emotions that need to be sorted out and parents can help them wade through this.
Start with asking kids what they know about whatever sensitive issue you are discussing. Children know more than we think or they may have bits and pieces of misinformation that needs to be sorted out. Don’t grill children but instead ask open-ended questions that get the conversation going.
Meet kids where they are at. Talk to them using words they know and understand. When they ask you about big topics, break it down into language and concepts they can understand. If your child is really young, using toys, books, or picture stories can be a great way to bring big concepts or tough topics into a relatable form that you both can feel good about.
You have heard me say it many times, children learn by watching us! So be that role model in all areas, including role modeling equality. When our kids see us treating others with respect and equality… guess what? …that is what they learn. Be mindful of jokes, and ignorant comments about others. Display respectful interactions and friendships with individuals of different races and cultures and encourage your children to do the same. When we respect other’s race, gender, sexuality, religion, politics, and who they love, you just can’t go wrong in life.
We often feel that if it doesn’t come out of our mouths but someone’s else’s, we are excused from speaking up. Ignoring racism and inequality is just as bad as you saying something ignorant. Role model being respectful and politely telling others that you don’t agree with their viewpoints or their statements make you feel uncomfortable. Not only does it teach children that they should speak up when people are disrespectful, but they become self-confident in their own beliefs.
Using emotional language with your children is so important for their emotional and social development. When we talk to our children about our feelings, they learn to better connect their own feelings. In this world with so many shoving down their feelings with medications, substances, and other unhealthy behaviors, when we help our children to understand that all feelings are important, even uncomfortable ones, they become much better able to manage stress and frustration and ultimately are happier human beings.
Tough subjects aren’t drive-by conversations…they are multiple conversations. We all need to process but kids need time to connect the dots, so multiple conversations about racism and inequality are important. When you start that conversation, they know they can come back to you any time on this tough but important subject.
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***Thank you to Sarah Sophie Flicker, Alyssa Klein – May 2020 for these resources!
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