The Dysregulation Insider Newsletter #29

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🔎 CASE STUDY

FAMILY SNAPSHOT:

Shared by a parent in Dr. Roseann’s community

Parent: Lily
Child: Jake, age 15
Core struggle: Intense emotional outbursts, particularly around school stress and family disagreement

🔍 The Pattern (Before)

Jake’s emotional overload triggered by school stress, social pressures, and family conflicts
Frequent outbursts during transitions, especially when told “no” or given limits
Withdrawal, irritability, and difficulty expressing frustration in healthy ways
Lily resorting to yelling or punitive measures when Jake refused to follow rules
Miscommunication, leading to escalating conflict instead of resolution

💡 What They Tried Instead:

Used a “Feelings First” script during emotional outbursts: “I see you’re really frustrated right now, let’s take a moment.”
Created a calm-down routine before schoolwork (deep breathing, music, or short physical activity)
Focused on listening and validating Jake’s experience instead of immediately offering solutions or punishments
Introduced a co-regulation approach through shared activities (going for a walk, talking in a calm setting)
Allowed space for Jake to self-soothe before addressing the issue at hand

Fewer emotional outbursts, particularly during after-school transitions
Jake began expressing his emotions more clearly, without immediately resorting to anger or withdrawal
Mornings and evenings became calmer with less conflict over routine tasks
Lily felt more in tune with Jake’s emotional needs, leading to a more cooperative relationship
The family’s overall dynamic became more peaceful with more constructive conversations

“Feelings First” scripting helped Jake feel understood instead of dismissed
Co-regulation through shared physical activities (like walks) signaled safety and built trust
Pausing to validate Jake’s emotional experience instead of jumping to correction allowed him to feel heard
Jake’s brain responded better to calm connection rather than escalating tension from traditional discipline
Creating space for self-soothing supported Jake’s autonomy while reinforcing his emotional safety